Tuesday, 10 August 2004 - 11:05 PM CDT
Name:
flyrchld
Fans
I was reading Sass's blog the other day, well, catching up is more like it, and she was discussing the whole 'fan' thing.
Fan is a shortened version of the word 'fanatic'. Ok, so you probably knew that.
And i know that some would argue that weird fan reactions are part and parcel of the celebrity phenomenon. Yeah, ok, so not a recent discovery, either. Fine.
I used to work with famous people. Music industry. I worked in conjunction with different labels, big and small, promoting the latest projects. That meant i went to a TON of listening parties, shows and concerts.
(God, woman, get to the point)
It has always been my personal 'thing', not to treat people any differently be they Joe Satriani, Stephen Tyler or Dollar Guy Sam, the homeless guy i used to make sandwiches for.
Problem is that a lot of people equate notoriety with 'special' in the grandest sort of sense, even famous and barely beginning to be famous people. Divas, yeah, even manly men can be divas.
I won't go into details, that isn't my point.
(so GET to it lady!)
*note, i am on my layover, getting ready for work and van time is less than 40 min away, i'm getting scatterbrained, sorry for this)
So some people totally get off to the whole crazy, running up to you, touchy-feely, OHMYGODYOUARETHECOOLESTMOSTWONDERFULPERSONINTHEWORLD!!!BETTERTHANJESUSEVEN!!! Yeah, i've seen it a hundred times. What's worse, some people demand it, there was this one artist whose manager told me to act more excited because i wasn't showing enough respect. (In this industry it is important to keep good relations, otherwise you don't get invited to the next show) I laughed, and then, when i met the artist, for the second time mind you,(i deserved an Oscar), fell to my knees in tears and told them,"OHMYGODYOUARE MYMOSTFAVORITESTSINGEREVER!" they lapped it right up.
yeah.
But there are those, on the other hand who just look uncomfortably embarassed by their popularity.
Boo hoo, you say, yeah, well, UpYours!! Jeesh!
Respect, now don't get this confused with Reverence, is what most of the celebrities I met, wanted. They want to be real people, not objects of worship. They want to connect with people as people, not demi-gods. You know, where they could look in someones eyes and see pupils,(as in black dot in the middle of your cornea), not some starry-eyed sycophant, who gushed and slathered on about how wonderful they are.
I always think, how would I feel if the roles were reversed? Yes, I like being told I'm special, who doesn't? But I think that it loses meaning once repeated, or heard too often. Tell them (no hysterical shrieking at the top of your lungs) why you admire them, i.e.,their latest movie, or humanitarian causes, but talk to them. Hell! Tell them you like their bottom, but realize the position you've put them in, I mean,COME ON!, whaddaya expect them to do? Ask you out on a date? Yeah, no. It would be really uncomfortable if someone did that to you. AND you would think they were psycho....right?
This is not to say that famous people don't occasionally lose sight of reality, too. When the put their beautiful faces on our movie screens, and televisions, and their voices on our radios, guess what? They evoke emotion from us. We connect them to the beautiful romance or action packed adventure that we escaped to on friday night.
Too, they must realize it is human nature to want to read about them. People are curious about the amazing, fairy tail lives these people must live. The whole entertainment industry is built to create a place for people to escape to in some way, shape, or form.
I think there is a way, ideally, to work this out.
Respect.
Respect that even though they are famous, (and you've even seen their bottoms) they ARE HUMAN.
Respect that even though this complete stranger would like your autograph, because you've inspired in them some strong emotion, they, too, ARE HUMAN.
(sigh)
Peace, love, out!
fly.
(could someone help me off this soap box now? Um, and turn off the background music, 'we are family')